Friday, September 24, 2010

Books to read

I am writing this as Lauren is force-feeding me corn on the cob. She's mimicking how I feed her dinner - it's not a pretty picture. "Eat this, mommy. Eat it quick, mommy. Eat! Eat! I feed you mommy! Quick!" I have GOT to tone it down during mealtimes.
But that was not what I was going to blog about. I got distracted by the flying corn kernels as propelled by Lauren from her spoon of terror. Heh!

I am going to write about these. I got the books a couple of months ago and given my shorter attention span lately, have only read a couple of chapters of each. 
The Five Love Languages of Your Family is a bumper issue of two books, The Five Love Languages of Children and The Five Love Languages of Teenagers. It's the former I am interested in. If you are familiar with Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages, this will be familiar territory. It talks about how children perceive love differently. The five languages are physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts and acts of service - each child will have one dominant language with a mix of the others as secondary languages, or a strong mix of all languages. It's insightful about really simple things, common sense matters that we sometimes take for granted. Depending on your child's primary love language, it guides you about keeping their love tank filled - aka show them the love in a way that they understand. I am still trying to determine the girls' dominant language, and I have a feeling it shifts at different stages. Definitely a handy book I want to keep around for a while.

The Forgotten Blessing is a wonderful book that I think everyone should read. It's a Christian book, but I think the things it talks about is relevant across religion. It talks about blessing your child, which in the Christian context is about taking verses from the Bible and literally blessing your offsprings. In lay terms, it is as simple as saying only good things over your child's life. It's about the power of the spoken word to affirm, encourage, sustain and build up. Negative language is demeaning, abusive, damaging and literally a curse. Of course you want to bless your child. You give the best materially and physically to your child, why not give the best in words? I was introduced to the notion of speaking positive as a teenager in youth camp, and my mother is also a great believer in the power of the spoken word, so it has been a part of my life. Sometimes parents don't realise how something said callously has an impact on their child - saying jokingly to your playgroup that "my son is very naughty/ stubborn/ a troublemaker/ a menace" effectively puts him in that category subconsciously. When well-meaning grandparents say things like "Don't climb the stairs, you'll fall down and break your leg", I always get riled up. Just say "Be careful"! They don't realise it but they're putting a series of event in motion. In Christian terms, it's a curse. In lay terms, call it the law of attraction if you will. What you speak you are attracting from the universe. Am I making sense? Go out and get this book! It makes better sense than me.

The other three books I've not gotten around to reading in more detail. But they all look promising. This is my last quarter goal - read more to enrich myself. Happy reading!

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